How Isn't a Feeling

Some days the words flow, and other days they don’t.

But does that mean there isn’t something to say? If the flow isn’t there, if the feelings aren’t matching — does that mean there’s nothing to create?

Must I feel creative to be creative?
Must “flow” be the only way to get things done?

On the surface, the answer is: Of course not.

I have shown up plenty of times in my life without feeling like it. I’ve reported into work, punched the time clock. I have shown up to lead meetings, teach classes, go to the dentist, walk the dog… all without feeling like it.

I know you have too.

So this isn’t a matter of whether we “can.” Of course we can.

My question is — HOW. And that is a choice.

HOW do we show up even when we don’t want to show up?
HOW do we create even when we don’t feel like creating?
HOW do we get things done even when it doesn’t feel like flow?

Most often it’s done with a sense of obligation… I have to. I have to show up. I have to lead. I have to do the thing. Even though I don’t feel like it. I have to.

But the reality is… that’s not true.

You don’t have to. You could opt out. You could call it quits. You could go do something else. Try a different path. You could make a different decision.

But if it’s THE THING you want to do… If you know it’s part of your path, part of your journey, part of the plan…And you don’t want to do it, even then?

Taking it on with the energy of “I have to” is kind of like approaching someone you love the same way. What kind of relationship is that?

So how else? If it’s not most powerful to show up with a sense of obligation to the work, AND we just flat out don’t feel like it, and there are no flow, no good-feeling-vibes to be found….

What do we do?

We choose a how that works. A how that’s powerful. A how that doesn’t rely on feelings. I mean, sure you can show up with a sense of obligation, but you can also choose any other context in the entire world.

It doesn’t have to feel like flow for us to choose to show up with all our love. It doesn’t have to feel easy for us to show up with all of ourselves. It doesn’t have to feel like anything.

Because the “how” isn’t a feeling.
The “how” is a choice.

Surprisingly, choices often change up our feeling state, too. (Try it: Choose to smile!)

But, it’s s a secondary benefit to still showing up for what it is that’s important. What it is that we love. What it is we’re committed to.

So, when the want-to isn’t there, and when the flowy feelings aren’t present, I choose to show up with all of me. Just with whatever bits and pieces that may come along with that. Not because I have to. But because I choose to.