Today's Plea

If you’re someone who aspires to lead, to make a difference.
If you’re someone who has seen yourself as a change agent, a difference maker, a healer, a conduit, one to “stand in the gap” so to speak.
If you’re someone who has ever looked on the suffering of the world and said: I want to help.

Your time is now.

We need you. The world needs you.

For years and years in my young life, I felt this calling. To say what there was to say. To do what there was to do. To keep myself uncomfortable, always pressing onward, in order to be able to share from a higher place.

And then, I got distracted. I got distracted with life and bills and money and relationships and goals, and I don’t have to go on because you know.

But nothing you do can cancel out your call. Your call is your call. It goes no where, even if you do. It’s patient. It doesn’t mind that you aren’t heeding it.

But the ones you are here to serve, may. Don’t worry, they never knew help was on the way, anyway.

This kind of work is like nothing you’ve ever done before.

It’s not one that says, “Okay! I will volunteer _____ hours at ____ organization and show up to ____ march."
It’s not one that even says, “I will give $______ to _____. That will help!”
And by god, it’s not one that say, “When I _____ I will finally be able to _____."

Your calling is not contingent.
Your calling does not care what you think you do or don’t have together.

All the calling needs is you. Willing to do the work.

But please hear me.

The work is on YOU first.

If there’s a single thing in your life you don’t feel in INTEGRITY about...
If there’s a single part of your experience you know you are living in HIDING around…
If there’s anything you know you are HOLDING BACK on — big picture, small picture, it doesn’t matter...
If there’s anything, at all, you are AWARE of that needs to change…

Get to freaking work.

Commit hell or high or water to heal the shit. Do whatever it takes. Go wherever it takes. Find whoever it takes. Give everything it takes to get in integrity. To step out of hiding. And to become hyper aware of how you “be” in this world. Healing can come through you, and it wants to come TO you.

Because do you know where the Healing that we want so badly for our world is going to come from? Where the Love that we desire is going to come from?

It’s going to come from WITHIN you. It’s going to come “AS” you!

You’re not a leader/healer/change agent who hears a message, claims to know it, and then regurgitates it. We’ve had enough of those.

Whatever your truth is, speak it.
Whatever your path is, walk it.

And don’t let fear keep you from “changing” as you go — that’s why it’s a path! You will uncover new things to heal as you go. You will change. And you’ll share from all those points along the way.

But must actually start.

It’s time to get going.

No more playing games.
No more staying comfortable.
No more living in the shadows.
No more avoiding the chisel that wants to break the thick crust that surrounds you.

You’re in there, just waiting to shine, to share, to heal!

But first — it’s requires you do the work of showing up for you. You know what’s next.

Does Money Have a Place Inside Self-Actualization?

(These words will take you somewhere. Follow them till the end?)

Money money money money (rockin’ everywhere… oh, wrong lyrics. 😉)  

I need more money…want more money…more money, please!  

I know most of us don’t talk like that. But, somewhere deep in the recesses of our soul, we’re thinking — if only I had more money all my problems would be solved. At least most of them. 

When I have more money I’ll… 

👉🏼 Invest in myself. Experiences, pleasures …Trainings, coaching. I’ll finally have the budget for ME. 

👉🏼 Be able to get the gym membership, the personal trainer & finally get consistent with my work outs. (🎶 I work ouuuttt… 💪🏼) It’s too tough right now to just “wake up early” and do it by myself. 

👉🏼 Buy the healthy, organic food. I’ll even meal prep and plan and have the cute stickers in my cute journal, and the food situation will be on lock. 

👉🏼 Actually enjoy my time off 🤩 🏖 No more dreading going back to work because I’ll have “plenty” and the demand just won’t be there. 

👉🏼 Spend more time with the things and people I love. I’ll take off early some afternoons, have long weekends and pick up some hobbies and creative endeavors I know I’d enjoy.  

👉🏼 Feel lighter. More free. I'lll have more S P A C E to float about and just “be.”  

Most people do not claim with words that money is the “solution” but we carry a vibe with us that says: Once I have the money handled, then I’ll ______. 

Let’s talk about “having the money handled.” 

First of all: What does that even mean? No debt? More income? No surprise bills? No car repairs needed ever again? What about having your retirement secured? What if you end up living 20 more years than you anticipated?  

But second of all: If we keep waiting for one thing, to be with another thing, we’re going to spend our whole life waiting. 

There is something for you to be with right now. 
And that’s what there is to be with. 

And when you’re honest with yourself you actually just know what it is. 

You know when you’re scrolling, and your higher self is like — No. Nope, nope, nope. That’s not what we’re doing right now. 

You know when you’re going for another glass of wine, or stuffing down the last of the fries or reaching for the donut, and your higher self is like — Uhm, hello? What are we doing here?

And you know the same thing happens around money. You work hard for what you make, and you feel like you know what there is to do with it. No need to really examine the motives or the energy — as long as it looks good on paper, right? And higher self is like — Hey, there’s a better way.

But we stay so distracted we barely even hear that Self. We’re just trying to make it through another day. Trying to get by. Easy does it, we think. Don’t get too crazy, now.

There is a Voice. And it is speaking to you about the way in which to go. 

But most humans are still operating inside a pretty static-filled channel, and the Voice that is trying to lead just isn’t coming in that clear.

Before we go off making plans and trying to create our grand visions “by the book” or in some logical form — wouldn’t it be best if we did the work around tuning into the Voice? 

The Voice is what knows best for all-time, not just for now-time. 
The Voice is your future Self who knows where this whole thing is going and is trying to make itself known, so you can live more aligned. More true. More whole. 
The Voice is not interested in protecting your ego, your personal identity or your accomplishments. It’s not interested in having you look good and be right. 

The Voice is only interested in you remembering who you really are. 
The Voice is only interested in your Self-realization which inevitably becomes Self-actualization. 

Being able to clearly distinguish the Voice from the noise of the mind, then, is the first thing there is to do.  Because it knows best.

It’s what you want anyway. If you’re honest….You really just want to live fully. You want to have the deepest peace, the most grounded certainty. You want to know you are exactly where you’re “supposed” to be.

This isn’t apathy. It’s not resignation. And it’s definitely not laziness. 

No, quite the opposite. Presence. Acceptance. Awareness. Peace. These are powerful, powerful ways of being.

What you want comes into view clearly, front and center, when you choose to face reality instead of your own illusory stories. 

See, the Voice exists only in Reality. It is the Truth. And It is All That Is.  

And it’s yours. It’s you. Once you begin observing, you notice — all that other stuff, the static, the fog, the confusion, the pain, the suffering, the chaos — it’s all a story you had believed and taken on as your own.

And now you get to relax into Reality.

What does this have to do with money?  

Everything. Because everything is everything. You and your life? You’re just one big ball of ENERGY.

Money is where most of our stories seem to begin.  

Don’t have “enough?” We’re tight. It’s tight. Everything’s tight. We’re suffering. Hard to get along with, talk with or really do anything with. Just have to get out of this situation, and then we can feel better.
Have “enough?” We’re okay. All’s well. Live and let live! Eat drink and be merry.

And up and down the rollercoaster goes. Don’t be fooled by time, either. It’s a facade... 
For some the pain of “not having enough” comes up every month and subsides as soon as they get paid.  
For others, it comes up once a year when they spend too much at Christmas or take the family on the annual vacation. 

For others, it hits when the stock crashes or the kids need help or a diagnosis gets made.  

When the sales don’t come in or the employees quit or just… life! 
What if you could release the tightness and never feel it again, regardless of circumstances or situations? 
What if you could be fully present, relaxed and grounded, always? 
What if peace was your energy? Clarity was your power?  

What if a steadfast following of the Voice was all you ever concerned yourself with, knowing It will lead you to your Self? That Self, by the way, is the most relaxed, vibrant, creative, love-filled Self ever!

It’s possible. It is the work of our life because it’s the work no one else can do for you. 

Self-honesty, self-awareness, self-acceptance — these are the foundation pieces to put into place. Ultimately, the path leads to self-realization. 

A realized Self. An understood Self. A recognized Self. 

That Self, fully seen, will actualize. Here, in form. Your human existence will be exactly as it was originally designed to be. You will play full on, with no regrets, no apprehensions, no hold backs, no take backs. 

Just You shining You.

Why Shutting Up Will Make You a Better Leader, Creative, Artist or Craftsperson

Shut Up & Work.

Harsh, right? I wouldn’t say it if I didn’t love you. I wish someone would have told me this earlier, so hear me: You can talk about it. Or you can be about it.

For all you types that like to talk (myself included), I will share a brief glimpse of hope: Being about it may very well include talking.

But there is a necessary predicate. A framework with which you must build first:

Your work will only take root from a place of being about it.

Most often, for those of us who like to talk, that first requires a real commitment to shutting up.

Shutting up our own rambling distractions.
Shutting up our wild hair tendencies toward drama.
Shutting up so we can hear ourselves.
Shutting up so we can stop being swayed by this one’s opinion or that one’s ideas.
Shutting up so we can finally do our own work.

Not the work you just so happen to “find yourself” in, but the work of your life. The work that there is for you to do here. The work of creating. The work of being. The work of embodying who you really are — the high, expansive, radiant, light-filled, gold-standard YOU that you are.

Everything else is simply saying “yes” to a lesser expressed you. And from what I know, you’re not about that life.

What Not To Leave Behind When Intentionally Creating Your Life

When you’re on the journey of creating your life, there are choices to make.

You will inevitably have to leave things behind that do not work for you anymore. This clears up space for what is to come. And often, you will leave things behind not yet knowing what will take their place.

When you’ve been on the journey for a bit and exercised this muscle through doing it a few times, you start trusting the process. Let go of what doesn’t work… Let in what does.

But stay vigilant. You can trust the process. You can trust your Self. But the nature of your smaller self would try to have you believe that some things don’t work anymore, when they actually very much do.

This is the work of self-inquiry. Of playing the active role as the observer in your life, instead of identifying as one with the minutia. Every day, you deserve to have an honest conversation with yourself about what it you’re up to. Every day, you owe it to yourself to pay attention, to watch how you are being, or not being. What alignment, or lack of, you are experiencing.

Every day, there is to set your intentions on integrity with Self and be open to whatever that future, higher version of you says to do.

By all means, leave behind what doesn’t work.
But don’t leave behind what does.