Shifting Out of the Old Game Into the New One

I know you're afraid to commit. I know you don't want to fail again, fall again, disappoint again.

I know fear stands there, looming, telling you it's not safe to try again. That it's best to get yourself together first.
I know judgment stands there, shouting, telling you it's never enough. That you're never enough.

You don't want to be weak.
In fact, you know you aren't. You know you've got stamina so few around you do. You're in it. You show up. Again and again.

But by God it feels like you just can't sometimes. It feels like you're so tired. Tired of trying. Tired of walking out onto the same battlefield. Tired of picking up the same weapons to wage war with.

Tired of trying to create change. 😩

Isn't this supposed to shift at some point? Isn't all this work I'm putting in supposed to actually shift something? When do I get to relax?

Maybe it's just best to give in.

But inevitably, you have a moment! 🤩

Because you actually know who you are. You can see it, sense it, feel it. You get glimpses from time to time, and it feels so right. It feels so right, so real, you take action. You commit! You get back out there and start again.

"I'm making a change. Things are going to be different this time. Let's do it!"

And then -- BAM. Knocked out. Again! Tired. Exhausted. "Take me out of the game, coach, I need a break."

And in comes the judgment proving its nasty comments to you again.

↳ See, I told you you couldn't do it. 
↳ I told you you'd fail again.
↳ I told you that it wouldn't be worth it.

And on and on the cycle goes. And every time you're out of the game, it gets reinforced a little bit more: See. This is who you are. Stay small. Stay safe. Stay realistic.

My dear...
You are playing the wrong game. That game is designed for winners and losers. And you are SO FREAKING ABOVE THAT.

That game is designed to kill, and it reminds you of that every time you just want to relax but feel like relaxing will cause someone or something to come beat you down and end it all.

That game is designed for "game over" at some point, and all its plays are leading toward that end.

There is a new game for you. ✨

It has different rules entirely. You haven't played it before, so it's going to take some getting used to. In fact, there's going to be times it feels pretty painful. Leaving everything you've known behind. All the things it seems you worked for, earned or won.

But if you look closely: You know none of that's for you, anyway. When you see that glimpse of the real you from time to time, you know all of that pales in comparison.

Thew new game is going to take some practice. But first, we've got to shift out of the old one. I promise you it will be worth it. 
🔸 The new game has no winners or losers. Only players.
🔸The new game is designed for life, and every turn gives you the opportunity to have fun experiencing more of it.
🔸The new game is eternal, and there's nothing (nothing) you could do to mess it up.

Commitment is still required. But it is not the kind you think.

This commitment is simply the choice to play. 🚀

What Not To Leave Behind When Intentionally Creating Your Life

When you’re on the journey of creating your life, there are choices to make.

You will inevitably have to leave things behind that do not work for you anymore. This clears up space for what is to come. And often, you will leave things behind not yet knowing what will take their place.

When you’ve been on the journey for a bit and exercised this muscle through doing it a few times, you start trusting the process. Let go of what doesn’t work… Let in what does.

But stay vigilant. You can trust the process. You can trust your Self. But the nature of your smaller self would try to have you believe that some things don’t work anymore, when they actually very much do.

This is the work of self-inquiry. Of playing the active role as the observer in your life, instead of identifying as one with the minutia. Every day, you deserve to have an honest conversation with yourself about what it you’re up to. Every day, you owe it to yourself to pay attention, to watch how you are being, or not being. What alignment, or lack of, you are experiencing.

Every day, there is to set your intentions on integrity with Self and be open to whatever that future, higher version of you says to do.

By all means, leave behind what doesn’t work.
But don’t leave behind what does.

When Do We Talk About Peace?

Take a closer look at the conversations happening in our world and “peace” isn’t necessarily at the top of the list.

I’ve sat through my fair share of workshops, lectures and one-on-one conversations revolving around everything from religion, politics, sales & commerce, leadership development, productivity solutions, empowerment mindsets, wealth building, health and wellness living, and mindfulness & spirituality. I’ve read the books and engaged in deeper perspectives around all of these things and continue to do so because the conversations unfolding are creating the experience we have as a civilization.

But one of my favorite questions to ask is: What is not being said here?

And when I consider the communications as a whole, via all the outlets we share, it’s very clear that “peace” isn’t exactly at the top of our conversation lists.

Oxford dictionary defines peace as…
”1. Freedom from disturbance; tranquility. 1.1. Mental or emotional calm.”
”2. A state or period in which there is no war or a war has ended.”

On the surface, we say we want freedom, but I don’t think we even know what we want freedom “from.”

What we want is peace.

Yet by and large, our world operates in a paradigm where peace is impossible. We hold being “right” in higher regard than finding real solutions that work for everyone. We take actions that perpetuate the divide, regardless of the result. We invest ourselves in means that do not work, thinking somehow it will lead to an end that does.

I’m here to let you know: There is another paradigm. And it can be entered into. It is one where peace is not only possible, but is the way to abundance and freedom and whole life. It does require letting go of each of the old ways and thought systems, in order to enter.

Many have already entered and are now extending ways of sharing and spreading this reality. This is not confined to the work of spiritual teachers, meditation practitioners or yoga instructors. This will be the work of every man and woman, in every part of life, in every industry, who has chosen to lead and extend ways that work, ways of peace, for all. Starting with one’s self.

Leading by Letting Go

The way to go to the next level as a leader, as a human committed to creating positive change, is to give up.

The way to rise is to let go.
The way to see increase is to surrender.

You may be a limitless, ever-expanding being, but must I remind you (I know I must...) that you do live within a human body, in time. And that, my friends, is limited in its own right.

Your body will die. 
Time will run out.

There is only so much you can be with. Truly.

The answer is not "more." The answer is "different."

You do not rise until you let go of what was working, in order to let in something that will work even better.

You do not see increase until you surrender what feels comfortable and satisfying, to allow in and make space for, the higher state of abundance.

You do not go to the next level until you give up the one that’s is working perfectly well right now.

What’s working right now is working right now. And that is beautiful and fine and good.

But for those of us with vision, for those of us who are not interested in maintaining the status quo, for those of us interested in leading others, and the world, into a truly better experience of life… we must be willing to let go.

To make space.

To trust that the things we’ve “earned” or “created” or “done” or “implemented” so far were wonderful. And they got us here.

But they will not be the things that take us there. ("More" of the same is never the answer.)

This isn't for everyone. Surrendering, over and over, what is currently working, to open up space for the different, the new, the higher, is not the call of every heart.

But it is the call, and the absolute requirement, of those who are paving the path, leading the way and inviting people into a better future.

I’ve worked diligently in many ways to build habits, routines, structures and systems that work. Many times over in my life, for myself and for others, I have said, “This is the new thing we’re doing. Let’s do it.”

That’s the job of a leader. A leader says, “Let’s go… there.”

But with this M.O., with this deep commitment to exploration of the unknown for the benefit of humanity, and to never staying in one place for too long, at the core of the pioneer's heart, there comes right along with it a requirement to give up. To let go. To sacrifice the old.

Most often not knowing what will take its place, but willing to go in search and report back, for the others.

If that's you, may these be your words:
I'll go first. 
I’ll let go first. 
I’ll surrender first.
I’ll give up first. 
I’ll take the risk…first.