When Do We Talk About Peace?

Take a closer look at the conversations happening in our world and “peace” isn’t necessarily at the top of the list.

I’ve sat through my fair share of workshops, lectures and one-on-one conversations revolving around everything from religion, politics, sales & commerce, leadership development, productivity solutions, empowerment mindsets, wealth building, health and wellness living, and mindfulness & spirituality. I’ve read the books and engaged in deeper perspectives around all of these things and continue to do so because the conversations unfolding are creating the experience we have as a civilization.

But one of my favorite questions to ask is: What is not being said here?

And when I consider the communications as a whole, via all the outlets we share, it’s very clear that “peace” isn’t exactly at the top of our conversation lists.

Oxford dictionary defines peace as…
”1. Freedom from disturbance; tranquility. 1.1. Mental or emotional calm.”
”2. A state or period in which there is no war or a war has ended.”

On the surface, we say we want freedom, but I don’t think we even know what we want freedom “from.”

What we want is peace.

Yet by and large, our world operates in a paradigm where peace is impossible. We hold being “right” in higher regard than finding real solutions that work for everyone. We take actions that perpetuate the divide, regardless of the result. We invest ourselves in means that do not work, thinking somehow it will lead to an end that does.

I’m here to let you know: There is another paradigm. And it can be entered into. It is one where peace is not only possible, but is the way to abundance and freedom and whole life. It does require letting go of each of the old ways and thought systems, in order to enter.

Many have already entered and are now extending ways of sharing and spreading this reality. This is not confined to the work of spiritual teachers, meditation practitioners or yoga instructors. This will be the work of every man and woman, in every part of life, in every industry, who has chosen to lead and extend ways that work, ways of peace, for all. Starting with one’s self.

Leading by Letting Go

The way to go to the next level as a leader, as a human committed to creating positive change, is to give up.

The way to rise is to let go.
The way to see increase is to surrender.

You may be a limitless, ever-expanding being, but must I remind you (I know I must...) that you do live within a human body, in time. And that, my friends, is limited in its own right.

Your body will die. 
Time will run out.

There is only so much you can be with. Truly.

The answer is not "more." The answer is "different."

You do not rise until you let go of what was working, in order to let in something that will work even better.

You do not see increase until you surrender what feels comfortable and satisfying, to allow in and make space for, the higher state of abundance.

You do not go to the next level until you give up the one that’s is working perfectly well right now.

What’s working right now is working right now. And that is beautiful and fine and good.

But for those of us with vision, for those of us who are not interested in maintaining the status quo, for those of us interested in leading others, and the world, into a truly better experience of life… we must be willing to let go.

To make space.

To trust that the things we’ve “earned” or “created” or “done” or “implemented” so far were wonderful. And they got us here.

But they will not be the things that take us there. ("More" of the same is never the answer.)

This isn't for everyone. Surrendering, over and over, what is currently working, to open up space for the different, the new, the higher, is not the call of every heart.

But it is the call, and the absolute requirement, of those who are paving the path, leading the way and inviting people into a better future.

I’ve worked diligently in many ways to build habits, routines, structures and systems that work. Many times over in my life, for myself and for others, I have said, “This is the new thing we’re doing. Let’s do it.”

That’s the job of a leader. A leader says, “Let’s go… there.”

But with this M.O., with this deep commitment to exploration of the unknown for the benefit of humanity, and to never staying in one place for too long, at the core of the pioneer's heart, there comes right along with it a requirement to give up. To let go. To sacrifice the old.

Most often not knowing what will take its place, but willing to go in search and report back, for the others.

If that's you, may these be your words:
I'll go first. 
I’ll let go first. 
I’ll surrender first.
I’ll give up first. 
I’ll take the risk…first.

Get Ahead by Getting Ahead

It’s Sunday night as I write this, and as has been the case for many Sunday nights of my life, I have a general sense of excitement about the week ahead.

But I know for many that feeling could just as well be overwhelm. An inbox full of emails to address. A client who needs called first thing in the AM. A sick child. A grumpy spouse. A dirty house….

It’s the basics we overlook. It’s the basics we take for granted. It’s the basics we think we don’t need because surely the solution to all our problems and issues is something really complex and difficult.

But it’s the basics we need.

Set time aside to plan. You will always feel behind, stressed and hectic if you are not ahead of what’s happening. And the only way you get ahead is by getting ahead. That doesn’t [necessarily] mean getting ahead in your workload.

It’s about getting ahead in your mind. Getting your mental state, your perspective, ahead of the game, so nothing takes you by surprise or knocks you off track.

What do you need to be with, to vision, to plan, to see, before the week actually begins to unfold, so that you are ahead, directing, leading and orchestrating the whole damn thing?

Why wait?

Most people love to claim they love their lives.

Until they don’t.

They love to flaunt their peace and happiness and romance and stability until things start to fall apart. When they lose a job or a kid gets addicted to drugs or they lose a big client or their stock gets wiped out.

It can be any number of things that show up that then cause people to re-examine their life. Their decisions. Their state of being.

But why wait?

Why wait until things get foggy, messy, miserable?
Why wait until things feel out of control or like it’s time for panic-mode?
Why wait until you feel the stress, the pressure, the anxiety, the darkness?

What if you built a life where things never actually felt foggy, messy or miserable?
What if you built a life where things never felt out of control or like you panic was the only option?
What if you built a life where stress, pressure (the debilitating kind), anxiety and darkness weren’t your go-to states?

Examine your life now.
Be proactive now.
Make decisions now.

Yes, you’ll fail. Yes, you’ll re-consider. Yes, you’ll feel like you go “back to the drawing board.” But who you become as someone who exercises your power of choice, your ability to decide, to execute on your vision will make all of the difference.

Don’t wait to build up the strength of your will when it’s needed most! Do it now, so when what seems more challenging shows up, you handle it like a breeze.

Something your mind could use

Your mind could really use something.

It’s been doing its job. It’s been working away over there. It does this and that. It thinks these thoughts; produces those feelings; holds that opinion.

More than likely it’s been functioning quite well since since the day you were born! I’m not saying you’re always happy with it, but it’s definitely functioning. Picking up all the inputs it receives, organizing and shifting and shuffling them. It’s taken the time to make edits and approve and reject different ideas or experiences. It’s produced an entire experience life for you and will continue to do so. It’s at work 24, 7, no questions asked.

And it could really use something. Something that only you can give it….

Direction.

It could just use a little direction. A little training. A little…
“Hey, let’s not do it that way, anymore.”
”Let’s try a different way this time.”
”Let’s see if we can find an even better way.”

Your mind serves the purpose it is assigned. But if you haven’t taken the time to assign it, direct it, lead it… it’s just flying by default settings, doing the best it knows how!

A little love, a little training, a little attention, a little directing, and just watch how it responds. 💗