Must We Continue to Be So Cliche? The Time is NOW.

I’m not exactly sure what it’s going to take to turn this ship around. But I know my part requires me to keep saying the same thing over and over in different ways, turning it this way and that way, every day, all day, for the rest of my life. At the risk of sounding cliche.

Here it is for this moment…

You will DIE.
But you are not dead yet.
The time is NOW.

What are you waiting for? What are you holding out on? What are you saying you’ll do this weekend, next week, next month, next year? What are you saying you’ll do after the kids are grown, after you retire, when you pay off the house? What are you saying you need to have happen before you can make a bet on yourself? What are you saying needs to line up, or get together, before you can go for it?

Look, I KNOW you have convinced yourself of two things.

  1. Your life is pretty good! You actually enjoy it. You love the people in your life; you love what you do most of the time; you’re decently proud of yourself for all the ways you’ve survived, made it and got “here.” Look at all you’ve overcome! Look at all you’ve been through!

  2. Your life will be better one day! You regularly look at what’s possible. You have vision, dreams, desires. And they spark a little something in you from time to time that you’re convinced is going to be what inevitably draws those things into your life.

There’s the money situation that you talk about year after year after year. I’ll pay that debt off by 2019; I’ll have started that business by 2015; I’ll purchase that first investment I want as soon as I make $_____ in sales.

There’s the health situation that you keep coming back to again and again. You make progress and feel so good only to have LIFE happen (vacations, holidays, emotional upsets) and get off track. But you get the story going: I’ll start that back up next month! I’ll look into the fitness program tomorrow. This will be so much easier when my spouse is on board…

There’s the time situation that you want more freedom around. I’ll wake up earlier when I can finally go to bed earlier when my kids finally listen to me and go to sleep on time. I’ll really start to enjoy my weekends when I don’t have to spend them cleaning the house and running around showing my face at this and that event. I’ll be able to do whatever I want when I can finally get the money situation together, so I don’t feel tied to someone else’s dime, on my time.

You get it.

Like I said, you’ve convinced yourself of two things: Everything is good now. And life will be better one day.

Guess what?

Life will not be better one day. Because life is NOW. And this is it. Will you choose to live? Will you choose to show up? Will you choose to go for it? Will you choose to embody your body and play the magnificent role of human while you’ve got the chance? Will you say what there is to say, do what there is to do and be who there is to be NOW? Will you dig a little deeper, surrender a little more and be willing to be seen? To take a risk? To take a chance and face your fears?

What’s worse, really? The fear of failure, disappointment and looking weak? Or actually having not lived fully while you’re alive?

Will you decide now? Or will you wait till next week?

Shifting Out of the Old Game Into the New One

I know you're afraid to commit. I know you don't want to fail again, fall again, disappoint again.

I know fear stands there, looming, telling you it's not safe to try again. That it's best to get yourself together first.
I know judgment stands there, shouting, telling you it's never enough. That you're never enough.

You don't want to be weak.
In fact, you know you aren't. You know you've got stamina so few around you do. You're in it. You show up. Again and again.

But by God it feels like you just can't sometimes. It feels like you're so tired. Tired of trying. Tired of walking out onto the same battlefield. Tired of picking up the same weapons to wage war with.

Tired of trying to create change. 😩

Isn't this supposed to shift at some point? Isn't all this work I'm putting in supposed to actually shift something? When do I get to relax?

Maybe it's just best to give in.

But inevitably, you have a moment! 🤩

Because you actually know who you are. You can see it, sense it, feel it. You get glimpses from time to time, and it feels so right. It feels so right, so real, you take action. You commit! You get back out there and start again.

"I'm making a change. Things are going to be different this time. Let's do it!"

And then -- BAM. Knocked out. Again! Tired. Exhausted. "Take me out of the game, coach, I need a break."

And in comes the judgment proving its nasty comments to you again.

↳ See, I told you you couldn't do it. 
↳ I told you you'd fail again.
↳ I told you that it wouldn't be worth it.

And on and on the cycle goes. And every time you're out of the game, it gets reinforced a little bit more: See. This is who you are. Stay small. Stay safe. Stay realistic.

My dear...
You are playing the wrong game. That game is designed for winners and losers. And you are SO FREAKING ABOVE THAT.

That game is designed to kill, and it reminds you of that every time you just want to relax but feel like relaxing will cause someone or something to come beat you down and end it all.

That game is designed for "game over" at some point, and all its plays are leading toward that end.

There is a new game for you. ✨

It has different rules entirely. You haven't played it before, so it's going to take some getting used to. In fact, there's going to be times it feels pretty painful. Leaving everything you've known behind. All the things it seems you worked for, earned or won.

But if you look closely: You know none of that's for you, anyway. When you see that glimpse of the real you from time to time, you know all of that pales in comparison.

Thew new game is going to take some practice. But first, we've got to shift out of the old one. I promise you it will be worth it. 
🔸 The new game has no winners or losers. Only players.
🔸The new game is designed for life, and every turn gives you the opportunity to have fun experiencing more of it.
🔸The new game is eternal, and there's nothing (nothing) you could do to mess it up.

Commitment is still required. But it is not the kind you think.

This commitment is simply the choice to play. 🚀

What Not To Leave Behind When Intentionally Creating Your Life

When you’re on the journey of creating your life, there are choices to make.

You will inevitably have to leave things behind that do not work for you anymore. This clears up space for what is to come. And often, you will leave things behind not yet knowing what will take their place.

When you’ve been on the journey for a bit and exercised this muscle through doing it a few times, you start trusting the process. Let go of what doesn’t work… Let in what does.

But stay vigilant. You can trust the process. You can trust your Self. But the nature of your smaller self would try to have you believe that some things don’t work anymore, when they actually very much do.

This is the work of self-inquiry. Of playing the active role as the observer in your life, instead of identifying as one with the minutia. Every day, you deserve to have an honest conversation with yourself about what it you’re up to. Every day, you owe it to yourself to pay attention, to watch how you are being, or not being. What alignment, or lack of, you are experiencing.

Every day, there is to set your intentions on integrity with Self and be open to whatever that future, higher version of you says to do.

By all means, leave behind what doesn’t work.
But don’t leave behind what does.

Why wait?

Most people love to claim they love their lives.

Until they don’t.

They love to flaunt their peace and happiness and romance and stability until things start to fall apart. When they lose a job or a kid gets addicted to drugs or they lose a big client or their stock gets wiped out.

It can be any number of things that show up that then cause people to re-examine their life. Their decisions. Their state of being.

But why wait?

Why wait until things get foggy, messy, miserable?
Why wait until things feel out of control or like it’s time for panic-mode?
Why wait until you feel the stress, the pressure, the anxiety, the darkness?

What if you built a life where things never actually felt foggy, messy or miserable?
What if you built a life where things never felt out of control or like you panic was the only option?
What if you built a life where stress, pressure (the debilitating kind), anxiety and darkness weren’t your go-to states?

Examine your life now.
Be proactive now.
Make decisions now.

Yes, you’ll fail. Yes, you’ll re-consider. Yes, you’ll feel like you go “back to the drawing board.” But who you become as someone who exercises your power of choice, your ability to decide, to execute on your vision will make all of the difference.

Don’t wait to build up the strength of your will when it’s needed most! Do it now, so when what seems more challenging shows up, you handle it like a breeze.

Something your mind could use

Your mind could really use something.

It’s been doing its job. It’s been working away over there. It does this and that. It thinks these thoughts; produces those feelings; holds that opinion.

More than likely it’s been functioning quite well since since the day you were born! I’m not saying you’re always happy with it, but it’s definitely functioning. Picking up all the inputs it receives, organizing and shifting and shuffling them. It’s taken the time to make edits and approve and reject different ideas or experiences. It’s produced an entire experience life for you and will continue to do so. It’s at work 24, 7, no questions asked.

And it could really use something. Something that only you can give it….

Direction.

It could just use a little direction. A little training. A little…
“Hey, let’s not do it that way, anymore.”
”Let’s try a different way this time.”
”Let’s see if we can find an even better way.”

Your mind serves the purpose it is assigned. But if you haven’t taken the time to assign it, direct it, lead it… it’s just flying by default settings, doing the best it knows how!

A little love, a little training, a little attention, a little directing, and just watch how it responds. 💗