Stop Making It Harder Than It is

Showing up is the work.

It’s really that simple.

Every time you go in hiding. Every time you resist a conversation. Every time you don’t commit because you’re afraid you’ll fail or fall...

You aren’t doing it.

This isn’t hard.

Showing up is the work. And it isn’t even hard!

Is what you may experience when you go through whatever it is, challenging? Sure. There’s an element of challenge. But THAT is the part that makes you better & the part you are always proud of yourself for doing!

All the story ahead of time about showing up that you think is so hard and challenging is NOT. And it’s not helping you grow.

So you’re literally over there wasting your time.

Until you show up.

Showing up is the work.

Then you do whatever there is to do, but it actually ends up being kind of fun, and you enjoy it, and you get better. You may even have some tears. But their tears of having given it your all...not tears of “if only...”

There’s a big difference.

The work is just to show up.

What is it time for you to show up to?

Starting In On Your New Idea

I talk a lot about “starting" because that’s the first step.

To get a new idea, a new venture, a new creation, a new possibility, into motion, there is a “start.”

Thinking about it isn’t starting.
Rolling it over and over in your mind isn’t starting.

In fact, many times your IDEA — so full of life and energy, as it came from a higher place than you, downloaded into your system, ready for action— sometimes that idea gets beaten down by your thinking brain!

It may sound something like this:

Alright, let’s get to work!

If I’m just able to _____.
And then if that happens, I can ____.
One thing I’ll need to look out for is _____.
Oh, but what if _____?
And ____ won’t like this.
I’ll need to _____ first.

On and on your thinking goes, turning over your new idea this way and that way. It thinks of possibility, but also thinks of hedging. It ponders the sheer brilliance of the idea, but also ponders all the ways it could go wrong.

And none of that is starting.

The start is a singular action.

Making the call.
Sending a message.
Scheduling something on the calendar.
Standing up.
Sitting down.
Googling it.

I love to think, so one of my first singular actions is: Writing down my thoughts until I can get clear on what the next action is.

All of this is starting.

You’ve heard the saying, “An object in motion tends to stay in motion.”

One singular action will simply invite you to another singular action.

There is no right or wrong, good or bad. There is just to stay with the actions … until.

Maybe until you’ve seen your idea all the way to completion!
Maybe until you’ve determined there is a “wait” period, and you will revisit another time.

Taking the action is when you begin.
Taking the action is what moves things into motion, keeps things in motion and “actually” brings your IDEA into reality!

We spend so much time thinking and worrying and stressing and fearing and trying to get all the details planned out and trying to say what’s going to happen ahead of time that we exhaust ourselves…

Before.
We.
Even.
Start.

Give yourself a break! Don’t exhaust yourself up there in your head, doing nothing but thinking.

Invest your energy into doing. Invest your energy into showing up. Invest your energy into action.

Your Idea wants to shine.
It wants to be shared.
It wants to be actualized!

The muscle you must exercise to start the thing is the same muscle you’re going to need every step of the way.

So you may as well get to working out that muscle now.

The Idea isn’t going to create itself.

How Isn't a Feeling

Some days the words flow, and other days they don’t.

But does that mean there isn’t something to say? If the flow isn’t there, if the feelings aren’t matching — does that mean there’s nothing to create?

Must I feel creative to be creative?
Must “flow” be the only way to get things done?

On the surface, the answer is: Of course not.

I have shown up plenty of times in my life without feeling like it. I’ve reported into work, punched the time clock. I have shown up to lead meetings, teach classes, go to the dentist, walk the dog… all without feeling like it.

I know you have too.

So this isn’t a matter of whether we “can.” Of course we can.

My question is — HOW. And that is a choice.

HOW do we show up even when we don’t want to show up?
HOW do we create even when we don’t feel like creating?
HOW do we get things done even when it doesn’t feel like flow?

Most often it’s done with a sense of obligation… I have to. I have to show up. I have to lead. I have to do the thing. Even though I don’t feel like it. I have to.

But the reality is… that’s not true.

You don’t have to. You could opt out. You could call it quits. You could go do something else. Try a different path. You could make a different decision.

But if it’s THE THING you want to do… If you know it’s part of your path, part of your journey, part of the plan…And you don’t want to do it, even then?

Taking it on with the energy of “I have to” is kind of like approaching someone you love the same way. What kind of relationship is that?

So how else? If it’s not most powerful to show up with a sense of obligation to the work, AND we just flat out don’t feel like it, and there are no flow, no good-feeling-vibes to be found….

What do we do?

We choose a how that works. A how that’s powerful. A how that doesn’t rely on feelings. I mean, sure you can show up with a sense of obligation, but you can also choose any other context in the entire world.

It doesn’t have to feel like flow for us to choose to show up with all our love. It doesn’t have to feel easy for us to show up with all of ourselves. It doesn’t have to feel like anything.

Because the “how” isn’t a feeling.
The “how” is a choice.

Surprisingly, choices often change up our feeling state, too. (Try it: Choose to smile!)

But, it’s s a secondary benefit to still showing up for what it is that’s important. What it is that we love. What it is we’re committed to.

So, when the want-to isn’t there, and when the flowy feelings aren’t present, I choose to show up with all of me. Just with whatever bits and pieces that may come along with that. Not because I have to. But because I choose to.

The Wish for Guilt

It’s a very real thing in our world that we have masses and masses of people who actually want someone to be guilty. They want someone to be wrong. They simply are committed to someone, somewhere — or something, somewhere — not working.

And by not working, there is a divisiveness in place. A separation between what works and what doesn’t. The possibility — the probability — the inevitability! — that for someone to be right, there must be someone wrong.

Can we look just for a moment at the absolute ludicrousness of this statement?

How is that that for someone to be right, for something to be right — that someone or something must be wrong?

We carry around a wish for guilt. It is engrained into the program of our world. This world is simply not our home, and yet the way we treat it is as if it is. This simple denial of reality is the foundational reason our entire experience is upside down. We perpetuate it with the children we raise. We perpetuate it in the conversations we have. We perpetuate it with ourselves — blaming ourselves, ridiculing ourselves, shaming ourselves, judging ourselves, rearing ourselves inadequate, inept and insufficient.

Something is missing.
Something is broken.
Something needs fixed.

It is as if we wouldn’t know what to do with ourselves if all was well, perfect and already complete.

If we weren’t spending our time, energy and attention on trying to “fix” things all of the time, we may actually have to face our real Self and… Create! Be! Love!

It’s easier to say we want a better world while simultaneously holding out our wish for guilt than to actually have to BE who we really are — perfectly perfect embodied conscious, divine, all-consuming energy.

The wish for guilt gives us reasons to stay small. It gives us reasons to try to play it safe. It gives us reasons to tinker with this thing and mess with that thing instead of taking on the expression of perfection — where all is well, always. Where nothing is missing, and nothing is broken and here, in this moment, the wish is for peace.

Will we let our wish be for peace?

Once it is our wish, it is ours to have. Thought it will take what it takes to experience it…Letting go of everything that’s keeping us from it.

Let’s start with choosing to let go of the wish for guilt.
Let’s start with choosing to let go of the need for someone to be wrong.
Let’s start with choosing to let go of the attachment to there always be a "problem.”

What if the only thing between here and there, what we have and what we want, is our perception that this gap is actually real?

It can’t hurt to try.

What it takes to live in peace

As a 20-something, “peace” wasn’t really at the top of my core values.

Adventure. Experience. Passion. Fun. But peace? No, thanks. I’ll be peaceful in my later years.

But the more self-reflection I did, the more I realized I was setting up a construct of peace “or” something else. Somewhere along the way I had embraced the belief I could either have a good time in life, with the turmoil that may bring, or be peaceful. As if peace was something that automatically meant a boring, mundane, meaningless life.

So for years I chose adventure and turmoil, because I couldn’t even see how “peace” could be a good time.

I’ll save the long story for another day, but to put it simply: You prove yourself right every time. And I proved myself right time and time again that I couldn’t live a life of adventure and be at peace. Instead, I would live my life of “adventure” and experience dramatic high highs and low lows. I’d get into the darkest of times where, in that moment, I’d trade almost anything for peace…except my sense of living.

So, to move on, I’d deny whatever that dark time was, and get back to living — knowing turmoil was around the corner, in any moment.

I’m grateful to have done the work of self-reflection and really work because I now know that I can live in peace and have my life be as adventurous and meaningful as I choose for it to be. I can have it all. Truly.

This kind of peace though — the kind that is real and powerful, the kind that allows you to keep living your expansive life while keeping you in its state — is earned.

It’s earned every time we exchange being “right” for what works.
It’s earned every time we let go of one way to find THE way.
It’s earned every time we choose to abandon that which kept us from it. 💗