As a 20-something, “peace” wasn’t really at the top of my core values.
Adventure. Experience. Passion. Fun. But peace? No, thanks. I’ll be peaceful in my later years.
But the more self-reflection I did, the more I realized I was setting up a construct of peace “or” something else. Somewhere along the way I had embraced the belief I could either have a good time in life, with the turmoil that may bring, or be peaceful. As if peace was something that automatically meant a boring, mundane, meaningless life.
So for years I chose adventure and turmoil, because I couldn’t even see how “peace” could be a good time.
I’ll save the long story for another day, but to put it simply: You prove yourself right every time. And I proved myself right time and time again that I couldn’t live a life of adventure and be at peace. Instead, I would live my life of “adventure” and experience dramatic high highs and low lows. I’d get into the darkest of times where, in that moment, I’d trade almost anything for peace…except my sense of living.
So, to move on, I’d deny whatever that dark time was, and get back to living — knowing turmoil was around the corner, in any moment.
I’m grateful to have done the work of self-reflection and really work because I now know that I can live in peace and have my life be as adventurous and meaningful as I choose for it to be. I can have it all. Truly.
This kind of peace though — the kind that is real and powerful, the kind that allows you to keep living your expansive life while keeping you in its state — is earned.
It’s earned every time we exchange being “right” for what works.
It’s earned every time we let go of one way to find THE way.
It’s earned every time we choose to abandon that which kept us from it. 💗