Today's Plea

If you’re someone who aspires to lead, to make a difference.
If you’re someone who has seen yourself as a change agent, a difference maker, a healer, a conduit, one to “stand in the gap” so to speak.
If you’re someone who has ever looked on the suffering of the world and said: I want to help.

Your time is now.

We need you. The world needs you.

For years and years in my young life, I felt this calling. To say what there was to say. To do what there was to do. To keep myself uncomfortable, always pressing onward, in order to be able to share from a higher place.

And then, I got distracted. I got distracted with life and bills and money and relationships and goals, and I don’t have to go on because you know.

But nothing you do can cancel out your call. Your call is your call. It goes no where, even if you do. It’s patient. It doesn’t mind that you aren’t heeding it.

But the ones you are here to serve, may. Don’t worry, they never knew help was on the way, anyway.

This kind of work is like nothing you’ve ever done before.

It’s not one that says, “Okay! I will volunteer _____ hours at ____ organization and show up to ____ march."
It’s not one that even says, “I will give $______ to _____. That will help!”
And by god, it’s not one that say, “When I _____ I will finally be able to _____."

Your calling is not contingent.
Your calling does not care what you think you do or don’t have together.

All the calling needs is you. Willing to do the work.

But please hear me.

The work is on YOU first.

If there’s a single thing in your life you don’t feel in INTEGRITY about...
If there’s a single part of your experience you know you are living in HIDING around…
If there’s anything you know you are HOLDING BACK on — big picture, small picture, it doesn’t matter...
If there’s anything, at all, you are AWARE of that needs to change…

Get to freaking work.

Commit hell or high or water to heal the shit. Do whatever it takes. Go wherever it takes. Find whoever it takes. Give everything it takes to get in integrity. To step out of hiding. And to become hyper aware of how you “be” in this world. Healing can come through you, and it wants to come TO you.

Because do you know where the Healing that we want so badly for our world is going to come from? Where the Love that we desire is going to come from?

It’s going to come from WITHIN you. It’s going to come “AS” you!

You’re not a leader/healer/change agent who hears a message, claims to know it, and then regurgitates it. We’ve had enough of those.

Whatever your truth is, speak it.
Whatever your path is, walk it.

And don’t let fear keep you from “changing” as you go — that’s why it’s a path! You will uncover new things to heal as you go. You will change. And you’ll share from all those points along the way.

But must actually start.

It’s time to get going.

No more playing games.
No more staying comfortable.
No more living in the shadows.
No more avoiding the chisel that wants to break the thick crust that surrounds you.

You’re in there, just waiting to shine, to share, to heal!

But first — it’s requires you do the work of showing up for you. You know what’s next.

The True Nature of Love

“Surely, if I love enough, give enough, share enough, be attentive enough, help enough, be kind enough, patient enough, understanding enough… surely! If I love this way and put myself aside time and time again… surely! I will finally be filled. Full. Complete. I will have made a difference. I will have made THE difference! And I will be fulfilled. Complete. I will be loved in the same grand way I love!"

Looking back now, I can see that’s how I spent the large majority of my life. As in: All of it. Except maybe as a very small child when our love is still pure.

Somewhere along the way fear creeps in, and we begin to “love" in order to feel safe. We begin to “love" in order to create a space of comfort around ourselves. One where things seem predictable and ‘measurable’ even. “If I love this way, then surely _____."

No longer do we Love for Love's sake. No longer do we shine the very essence of Love for the beauty that it is...

No, somewhere along the way, we decided love needed to get to WORK.

We decided the purpose of love was to fill a need out there with someone or something else.

And if that’s the way we give love, then of course, that’s the way we receive it.

Something missing? Love can help!

As if love was what would close the gap of insufficiency.

I understand the weight of what I am about to say. And here it is:

Love does not close gaps. 
Love does not fill needs.

Love is so all-encompassing, so all-consuming, so unconditional, it cannot even see a condition within which there is a “gap” or a “need.”

Love is what it is, as it is, always. It IS the perfection.

Love isn’t lacking, and it doesn’t see lack. 
Love isn’t in need, and it doesn’t see needs.

Love cannot earn its way, sacrifice its way or give its way to completion or wholeness.

Why? Simple…

Love IS the completion and wholeness.

Why would it need to sacrifice itself for itself? How could it? It couldn’t.

But we try. And it is what keeps us insane… in a cycle of something always missing, always broken, always lacking.

If we pin love in a way is scaleable, measurable... “enough” or “not enough” … we keep the very thing we want to correct and see changed, separate, elusive, out there, “one day."

To heal our world, to heal ourselves, to correct our perception, to make a difference that makes THE difference, only one choice is required...

That choice is to believe Love is all there is. And thus, Love cannot "give" Itself away at all, but it can share itself. It can extend itself.

All of what occurs and unfolds in our personal worlds and our collective world... all that looks like it is not love is simply the out picturing of our forgetting the all-encompassing nature of Love Itself.

So... May we remember. 💖


The Wish for Guilt

It’s a very real thing in our world that we have masses and masses of people who actually want someone to be guilty. They want someone to be wrong. They simply are committed to someone, somewhere — or something, somewhere — not working.

And by not working, there is a divisiveness in place. A separation between what works and what doesn’t. The possibility — the probability — the inevitability! — that for someone to be right, there must be someone wrong.

Can we look just for a moment at the absolute ludicrousness of this statement?

How is that that for someone to be right, for something to be right — that someone or something must be wrong?

We carry around a wish for guilt. It is engrained into the program of our world. This world is simply not our home, and yet the way we treat it is as if it is. This simple denial of reality is the foundational reason our entire experience is upside down. We perpetuate it with the children we raise. We perpetuate it in the conversations we have. We perpetuate it with ourselves — blaming ourselves, ridiculing ourselves, shaming ourselves, judging ourselves, rearing ourselves inadequate, inept and insufficient.

Something is missing.
Something is broken.
Something needs fixed.

It is as if we wouldn’t know what to do with ourselves if all was well, perfect and already complete.

If we weren’t spending our time, energy and attention on trying to “fix” things all of the time, we may actually have to face our real Self and… Create! Be! Love!

It’s easier to say we want a better world while simultaneously holding out our wish for guilt than to actually have to BE who we really are — perfectly perfect embodied conscious, divine, all-consuming energy.

The wish for guilt gives us reasons to stay small. It gives us reasons to try to play it safe. It gives us reasons to tinker with this thing and mess with that thing instead of taking on the expression of perfection — where all is well, always. Where nothing is missing, and nothing is broken and here, in this moment, the wish is for peace.

Will we let our wish be for peace?

Once it is our wish, it is ours to have. Thought it will take what it takes to experience it…Letting go of everything that’s keeping us from it.

Let’s start with choosing to let go of the wish for guilt.
Let’s start with choosing to let go of the need for someone to be wrong.
Let’s start with choosing to let go of the attachment to there always be a "problem.”

What if the only thing between here and there, what we have and what we want, is our perception that this gap is actually real?

It can’t hurt to try.

What it takes to live in peace

As a 20-something, “peace” wasn’t really at the top of my core values.

Adventure. Experience. Passion. Fun. But peace? No, thanks. I’ll be peaceful in my later years.

But the more self-reflection I did, the more I realized I was setting up a construct of peace “or” something else. Somewhere along the way I had embraced the belief I could either have a good time in life, with the turmoil that may bring, or be peaceful. As if peace was something that automatically meant a boring, mundane, meaningless life.

So for years I chose adventure and turmoil, because I couldn’t even see how “peace” could be a good time.

I’ll save the long story for another day, but to put it simply: You prove yourself right every time. And I proved myself right time and time again that I couldn’t live a life of adventure and be at peace. Instead, I would live my life of “adventure” and experience dramatic high highs and low lows. I’d get into the darkest of times where, in that moment, I’d trade almost anything for peace…except my sense of living.

So, to move on, I’d deny whatever that dark time was, and get back to living — knowing turmoil was around the corner, in any moment.

I’m grateful to have done the work of self-reflection and really work because I now know that I can live in peace and have my life be as adventurous and meaningful as I choose for it to be. I can have it all. Truly.

This kind of peace though — the kind that is real and powerful, the kind that allows you to keep living your expansive life while keeping you in its state — is earned.

It’s earned every time we exchange being “right” for what works.
It’s earned every time we let go of one way to find THE way.
It’s earned every time we choose to abandon that which kept us from it. 💗

Shifting Out of the Old Game Into the New One

I know you're afraid to commit. I know you don't want to fail again, fall again, disappoint again.

I know fear stands there, looming, telling you it's not safe to try again. That it's best to get yourself together first.
I know judgment stands there, shouting, telling you it's never enough. That you're never enough.

You don't want to be weak.
In fact, you know you aren't. You know you've got stamina so few around you do. You're in it. You show up. Again and again.

But by God it feels like you just can't sometimes. It feels like you're so tired. Tired of trying. Tired of walking out onto the same battlefield. Tired of picking up the same weapons to wage war with.

Tired of trying to create change. 😩

Isn't this supposed to shift at some point? Isn't all this work I'm putting in supposed to actually shift something? When do I get to relax?

Maybe it's just best to give in.

But inevitably, you have a moment! 🤩

Because you actually know who you are. You can see it, sense it, feel it. You get glimpses from time to time, and it feels so right. It feels so right, so real, you take action. You commit! You get back out there and start again.

"I'm making a change. Things are going to be different this time. Let's do it!"

And then -- BAM. Knocked out. Again! Tired. Exhausted. "Take me out of the game, coach, I need a break."

And in comes the judgment proving its nasty comments to you again.

↳ See, I told you you couldn't do it. 
↳ I told you you'd fail again.
↳ I told you that it wouldn't be worth it.

And on and on the cycle goes. And every time you're out of the game, it gets reinforced a little bit more: See. This is who you are. Stay small. Stay safe. Stay realistic.

My dear...
You are playing the wrong game. That game is designed for winners and losers. And you are SO FREAKING ABOVE THAT.

That game is designed to kill, and it reminds you of that every time you just want to relax but feel like relaxing will cause someone or something to come beat you down and end it all.

That game is designed for "game over" at some point, and all its plays are leading toward that end.

There is a new game for you. ✨

It has different rules entirely. You haven't played it before, so it's going to take some getting used to. In fact, there's going to be times it feels pretty painful. Leaving everything you've known behind. All the things it seems you worked for, earned or won.

But if you look closely: You know none of that's for you, anyway. When you see that glimpse of the real you from time to time, you know all of that pales in comparison.

Thew new game is going to take some practice. But first, we've got to shift out of the old one. I promise you it will be worth it. 
🔸 The new game has no winners or losers. Only players.
🔸The new game is designed for life, and every turn gives you the opportunity to have fun experiencing more of it.
🔸The new game is eternal, and there's nothing (nothing) you could do to mess it up.

Commitment is still required. But it is not the kind you think.

This commitment is simply the choice to play. 🚀

What Not To Leave Behind When Intentionally Creating Your Life

When you’re on the journey of creating your life, there are choices to make.

You will inevitably have to leave things behind that do not work for you anymore. This clears up space for what is to come. And often, you will leave things behind not yet knowing what will take their place.

When you’ve been on the journey for a bit and exercised this muscle through doing it a few times, you start trusting the process. Let go of what doesn’t work… Let in what does.

But stay vigilant. You can trust the process. You can trust your Self. But the nature of your smaller self would try to have you believe that some things don’t work anymore, when they actually very much do.

This is the work of self-inquiry. Of playing the active role as the observer in your life, instead of identifying as one with the minutia. Every day, you deserve to have an honest conversation with yourself about what it you’re up to. Every day, you owe it to yourself to pay attention, to watch how you are being, or not being. What alignment, or lack of, you are experiencing.

Every day, there is to set your intentions on integrity with Self and be open to whatever that future, higher version of you says to do.

By all means, leave behind what doesn’t work.
But don’t leave behind what does.

Use Your Mind, Change Your Life

You can feel down.
You can feel out.
You can feel like nothing is working the way you want it to.
It can seem like you’re in a daze or a dense fog.
You can think things aren’t making sense.
It can seem your goals are out of reach.
It can seem like you’re in a loop or a cycle.
You can have thoughts like: I don’t have what it takes; there’s just no way.

And guess what?

Life is still going to go on. Things are going to keep moving. You are going to keep breathing. You will keep waking up.

Life might go on with you in a mood.
Things might keep moving with you a little bitter. Resentful. Irritated. Angry.
You may keep breathing with some sadness. Depression. Anxiety. Discontent.
You might wake up and choose to stay in bed all day.

Basically: You may choose to live in resistance to life, but life does not care. It all keeps moving, anyway.

So what is there to do? Your “attitude” IS your experience, and it seems like you’re stuck in this rut of a space. It feels like life’s going on with you. No matter how much you know intellectually, it seems the embodiment of all you know just isn’t coming through. Your experience of life is suffering, and you don’t see a way out.

I hear it more than anything else:
I know I am my own problem!
I know it’s me in my own way.
I know it’s just my thinking.
I just need to get over it.
I just need to change my mindset about it.

But then nothing happens. Except time. Time happens. And things seem to get either slightly better or worse… only because conditions shift one way or the other (as time will do.)

What about when you want to transcend time?
What about when you want to transcend conditions?
What about when you’re the person who says I WILL NOT suffer my way through life.
I WILL NOT live less than who I know I am.
I WILL NOT be miserable.
I WILL NOT, NOT, hit my goals and show up for my self, my mission, my world.

What about when you’re that person? What’s there to do?

Let me tell you…

It’s to put in the work.

It’s to put in the practice every single day of training yourself to use your mind in a different way. To shift it from old, disempowering ways of thinking to new, powerful ways of thinking. To shift it from ways that didn’t work to ways that do work. To shift it from an outward focus for answers to an inward focus for the solution. To shift it from waiting to doing. To shift it from needing to having. To shift it from separation to connection.

Talk about peace. Talk abundance. Talk about freedom…

When it feels like things are ending, they are not.
When it feels like it’s the “end of the road”, it is not.
When it feels like you’re about to lose your mind, remember there is no where for your mind to go.

There are plenty of things out of your control.
The one thing that is not out of your control? Your relationship to your mind. It's begging for a change. You're begging for a change. It's time for change. Lasting change. Real change. Don't-recognize-the-old-you change.

But will you show up for the work? This rocket's not going anywhere without YOU. 🚀