How Isn't a Feeling

Some days the words flow, and other days they don’t.

But does that mean there isn’t something to say? If the flow isn’t there, if the feelings aren’t matching — does that mean there’s nothing to create?

Must I feel creative to be creative?
Must “flow” be the only way to get things done?

On the surface, the answer is: Of course not.

I have shown up plenty of times in my life without feeling like it. I’ve reported into work, punched the time clock. I have shown up to lead meetings, teach classes, go to the dentist, walk the dog… all without feeling like it.

I know you have too.

So this isn’t a matter of whether we “can.” Of course we can.

My question is — HOW. And that is a choice.

HOW do we show up even when we don’t want to show up?
HOW do we create even when we don’t feel like creating?
HOW do we get things done even when it doesn’t feel like flow?

Most often it’s done with a sense of obligation… I have to. I have to show up. I have to lead. I have to do the thing. Even though I don’t feel like it. I have to.

But the reality is… that’s not true.

You don’t have to. You could opt out. You could call it quits. You could go do something else. Try a different path. You could make a different decision.

But if it’s THE THING you want to do… If you know it’s part of your path, part of your journey, part of the plan…And you don’t want to do it, even then?

Taking it on with the energy of “I have to” is kind of like approaching someone you love the same way. What kind of relationship is that?

So how else? If it’s not most powerful to show up with a sense of obligation to the work, AND we just flat out don’t feel like it, and there are no flow, no good-feeling-vibes to be found….

What do we do?

We choose a how that works. A how that’s powerful. A how that doesn’t rely on feelings. I mean, sure you can show up with a sense of obligation, but you can also choose any other context in the entire world.

It doesn’t have to feel like flow for us to choose to show up with all our love. It doesn’t have to feel easy for us to show up with all of ourselves. It doesn’t have to feel like anything.

Because the “how” isn’t a feeling.
The “how” is a choice.

Surprisingly, choices often change up our feeling state, too. (Try it: Choose to smile!)

But, it’s s a secondary benefit to still showing up for what it is that’s important. What it is that we love. What it is we’re committed to.

So, when the want-to isn’t there, and when the flowy feelings aren’t present, I choose to show up with all of me. Just with whatever bits and pieces that may come along with that. Not because I have to. But because I choose to.

Use Your Mind, Change Your Life

You can feel down.
You can feel out.
You can feel like nothing is working the way you want it to.
It can seem like you’re in a daze or a dense fog.
You can think things aren’t making sense.
It can seem your goals are out of reach.
It can seem like you’re in a loop or a cycle.
You can have thoughts like: I don’t have what it takes; there’s just no way.

And guess what?

Life is still going to go on. Things are going to keep moving. You are going to keep breathing. You will keep waking up.

Life might go on with you in a mood.
Things might keep moving with you a little bitter. Resentful. Irritated. Angry.
You may keep breathing with some sadness. Depression. Anxiety. Discontent.
You might wake up and choose to stay in bed all day.

Basically: You may choose to live in resistance to life, but life does not care. It all keeps moving, anyway.

So what is there to do? Your “attitude” IS your experience, and it seems like you’re stuck in this rut of a space. It feels like life’s going on with you. No matter how much you know intellectually, it seems the embodiment of all you know just isn’t coming through. Your experience of life is suffering, and you don’t see a way out.

I hear it more than anything else:
I know I am my own problem!
I know it’s me in my own way.
I know it’s just my thinking.
I just need to get over it.
I just need to change my mindset about it.

But then nothing happens. Except time. Time happens. And things seem to get either slightly better or worse… only because conditions shift one way or the other (as time will do.)

What about when you want to transcend time?
What about when you want to transcend conditions?
What about when you’re the person who says I WILL NOT suffer my way through life.
I WILL NOT live less than who I know I am.
I WILL NOT be miserable.
I WILL NOT, NOT, hit my goals and show up for my self, my mission, my world.

What about when you’re that person? What’s there to do?

Let me tell you…

It’s to put in the work.

It’s to put in the practice every single day of training yourself to use your mind in a different way. To shift it from old, disempowering ways of thinking to new, powerful ways of thinking. To shift it from ways that didn’t work to ways that do work. To shift it from an outward focus for answers to an inward focus for the solution. To shift it from waiting to doing. To shift it from needing to having. To shift it from separation to connection.

Talk about peace. Talk abundance. Talk about freedom…

When it feels like things are ending, they are not.
When it feels like it’s the “end of the road”, it is not.
When it feels like you’re about to lose your mind, remember there is no where for your mind to go.

There are plenty of things out of your control.
The one thing that is not out of your control? Your relationship to your mind. It's begging for a change. You're begging for a change. It's time for change. Lasting change. Real change. Don't-recognize-the-old-you change.

But will you show up for the work? This rocket's not going anywhere without YOU. 🚀

When Do We Talk About Peace?

Take a closer look at the conversations happening in our world and “peace” isn’t necessarily at the top of the list.

I’ve sat through my fair share of workshops, lectures and one-on-one conversations revolving around everything from religion, politics, sales & commerce, leadership development, productivity solutions, empowerment mindsets, wealth building, health and wellness living, and mindfulness & spirituality. I’ve read the books and engaged in deeper perspectives around all of these things and continue to do so because the conversations unfolding are creating the experience we have as a civilization.

But one of my favorite questions to ask is: What is not being said here?

And when I consider the communications as a whole, via all the outlets we share, it’s very clear that “peace” isn’t exactly at the top of our conversation lists.

Oxford dictionary defines peace as…
”1. Freedom from disturbance; tranquility. 1.1. Mental or emotional calm.”
”2. A state or period in which there is no war or a war has ended.”

On the surface, we say we want freedom, but I don’t think we even know what we want freedom “from.”

What we want is peace.

Yet by and large, our world operates in a paradigm where peace is impossible. We hold being “right” in higher regard than finding real solutions that work for everyone. We take actions that perpetuate the divide, regardless of the result. We invest ourselves in means that do not work, thinking somehow it will lead to an end that does.

I’m here to let you know: There is another paradigm. And it can be entered into. It is one where peace is not only possible, but is the way to abundance and freedom and whole life. It does require letting go of each of the old ways and thought systems, in order to enter.

Many have already entered and are now extending ways of sharing and spreading this reality. This is not confined to the work of spiritual teachers, meditation practitioners or yoga instructors. This will be the work of every man and woman, in every part of life, in every industry, who has chosen to lead and extend ways that work, ways of peace, for all. Starting with one’s self.

You can't hide it if you wanted to.

Everything is seen. Everything is known. All the things you think you are hiding are already out here, in the energetic field of All That Is.

Reality isn’t something that can be fought or turned off.

Reality is reality.

Whatever you’re thinking or feeling there, alone, inside — the energy imprint has already been stamped into time & space. It is already a thing. You may not be able to see it or pinpoint where it is, but it’s there.

Every thought is already Known.
Every feeling is already Seen.
Every judgment, every criticism is already Existing.

You can’t hide that shit.

So stop trying.

Say what there is to say. Do what there is to do. If you want to hide it so bad, why don’t you bring it out and be with it, so you can take back your power?

You think you’re being powerful by hiding it.
But it’s got its hands all over you. Controlling every move.

Don’t say this. Don’t do that. You might end up…

It’s incredible what a little transparency can do for your POWER. Be willing to look at what is instead of stuffing it away in the closet. The kinds of things you want to hide are the exact things that want to stay hidden! Don’t let that thing win.

You’re in charge here. 😘

Get Ahead by Getting Ahead

It’s Sunday night as I write this, and as has been the case for many Sunday nights of my life, I have a general sense of excitement about the week ahead.

But I know for many that feeling could just as well be overwhelm. An inbox full of emails to address. A client who needs called first thing in the AM. A sick child. A grumpy spouse. A dirty house….

It’s the basics we overlook. It’s the basics we take for granted. It’s the basics we think we don’t need because surely the solution to all our problems and issues is something really complex and difficult.

But it’s the basics we need.

Set time aside to plan. You will always feel behind, stressed and hectic if you are not ahead of what’s happening. And the only way you get ahead is by getting ahead. That doesn’t [necessarily] mean getting ahead in your workload.

It’s about getting ahead in your mind. Getting your mental state, your perspective, ahead of the game, so nothing takes you by surprise or knocks you off track.

What do you need to be with, to vision, to plan, to see, before the week actually begins to unfold, so that you are ahead, directing, leading and orchestrating the whole damn thing?

Something your mind could use

Your mind could really use something.

It’s been doing its job. It’s been working away over there. It does this and that. It thinks these thoughts; produces those feelings; holds that opinion.

More than likely it’s been functioning quite well since since the day you were born! I’m not saying you’re always happy with it, but it’s definitely functioning. Picking up all the inputs it receives, organizing and shifting and shuffling them. It’s taken the time to make edits and approve and reject different ideas or experiences. It’s produced an entire experience life for you and will continue to do so. It’s at work 24, 7, no questions asked.

And it could really use something. Something that only you can give it….

Direction.

It could just use a little direction. A little training. A little…
“Hey, let’s not do it that way, anymore.”
”Let’s try a different way this time.”
”Let’s see if we can find an even better way.”

Your mind serves the purpose it is assigned. But if you haven’t taken the time to assign it, direct it, lead it… it’s just flying by default settings, doing the best it knows how!

A little love, a little training, a little attention, a little directing, and just watch how it responds. 💗