Does Money Have a Place Inside Self-Actualization?

(These words will take you somewhere. Follow them till the end?)

Money money money money (rockin’ everywhere… oh, wrong lyrics. 😉)  

I need more money…want more money…more money, please!  

I know most of us don’t talk like that. But, somewhere deep in the recesses of our soul, we’re thinking — if only I had more money all my problems would be solved. At least most of them. 

When I have more money I’ll… 

👉🏼 Invest in myself. Experiences, pleasures …Trainings, coaching. I’ll finally have the budget for ME. 

👉🏼 Be able to get the gym membership, the personal trainer & finally get consistent with my work outs. (🎶 I work ouuuttt… 💪🏼) It’s too tough right now to just “wake up early” and do it by myself. 

👉🏼 Buy the healthy, organic food. I’ll even meal prep and plan and have the cute stickers in my cute journal, and the food situation will be on lock. 

👉🏼 Actually enjoy my time off 🤩 🏖 No more dreading going back to work because I’ll have “plenty” and the demand just won’t be there. 

👉🏼 Spend more time with the things and people I love. I’ll take off early some afternoons, have long weekends and pick up some hobbies and creative endeavors I know I’d enjoy.  

👉🏼 Feel lighter. More free. I'lll have more S P A C E to float about and just “be.”  

Most people do not claim with words that money is the “solution” but we carry a vibe with us that says: Once I have the money handled, then I’ll ______. 

Let’s talk about “having the money handled.” 

First of all: What does that even mean? No debt? More income? No surprise bills? No car repairs needed ever again? What about having your retirement secured? What if you end up living 20 more years than you anticipated?  

But second of all: If we keep waiting for one thing, to be with another thing, we’re going to spend our whole life waiting. 

There is something for you to be with right now. 
And that’s what there is to be with. 

And when you’re honest with yourself you actually just know what it is. 

You know when you’re scrolling, and your higher self is like — No. Nope, nope, nope. That’s not what we’re doing right now. 

You know when you’re going for another glass of wine, or stuffing down the last of the fries or reaching for the donut, and your higher self is like — Uhm, hello? What are we doing here?

And you know the same thing happens around money. You work hard for what you make, and you feel like you know what there is to do with it. No need to really examine the motives or the energy — as long as it looks good on paper, right? And higher self is like — Hey, there’s a better way.

But we stay so distracted we barely even hear that Self. We’re just trying to make it through another day. Trying to get by. Easy does it, we think. Don’t get too crazy, now.

There is a Voice. And it is speaking to you about the way in which to go. 

But most humans are still operating inside a pretty static-filled channel, and the Voice that is trying to lead just isn’t coming in that clear.

Before we go off making plans and trying to create our grand visions “by the book” or in some logical form — wouldn’t it be best if we did the work around tuning into the Voice? 

The Voice is what knows best for all-time, not just for now-time. 
The Voice is your future Self who knows where this whole thing is going and is trying to make itself known, so you can live more aligned. More true. More whole. 
The Voice is not interested in protecting your ego, your personal identity or your accomplishments. It’s not interested in having you look good and be right. 

The Voice is only interested in you remembering who you really are. 
The Voice is only interested in your Self-realization which inevitably becomes Self-actualization. 

Being able to clearly distinguish the Voice from the noise of the mind, then, is the first thing there is to do.  Because it knows best.

It’s what you want anyway. If you’re honest….You really just want to live fully. You want to have the deepest peace, the most grounded certainty. You want to know you are exactly where you’re “supposed” to be.

This isn’t apathy. It’s not resignation. And it’s definitely not laziness. 

No, quite the opposite. Presence. Acceptance. Awareness. Peace. These are powerful, powerful ways of being.

What you want comes into view clearly, front and center, when you choose to face reality instead of your own illusory stories. 

See, the Voice exists only in Reality. It is the Truth. And It is All That Is.  

And it’s yours. It’s you. Once you begin observing, you notice — all that other stuff, the static, the fog, the confusion, the pain, the suffering, the chaos — it’s all a story you had believed and taken on as your own.

And now you get to relax into Reality.

What does this have to do with money?  

Everything. Because everything is everything. You and your life? You’re just one big ball of ENERGY.

Money is where most of our stories seem to begin.  

Don’t have “enough?” We’re tight. It’s tight. Everything’s tight. We’re suffering. Hard to get along with, talk with or really do anything with. Just have to get out of this situation, and then we can feel better.
Have “enough?” We’re okay. All’s well. Live and let live! Eat drink and be merry.

And up and down the rollercoaster goes. Don’t be fooled by time, either. It’s a facade... 
For some the pain of “not having enough” comes up every month and subsides as soon as they get paid.  
For others, it comes up once a year when they spend too much at Christmas or take the family on the annual vacation. 

For others, it hits when the stock crashes or the kids need help or a diagnosis gets made.  

When the sales don’t come in or the employees quit or just… life! 
What if you could release the tightness and never feel it again, regardless of circumstances or situations? 
What if you could be fully present, relaxed and grounded, always? 
What if peace was your energy? Clarity was your power?  

What if a steadfast following of the Voice was all you ever concerned yourself with, knowing It will lead you to your Self? That Self, by the way, is the most relaxed, vibrant, creative, love-filled Self ever!

It’s possible. It is the work of our life because it’s the work no one else can do for you. 

Self-honesty, self-awareness, self-acceptance — these are the foundation pieces to put into place. Ultimately, the path leads to self-realization. 

A realized Self. An understood Self. A recognized Self. 

That Self, fully seen, will actualize. Here, in form. Your human existence will be exactly as it was originally designed to be. You will play full on, with no regrets, no apprehensions, no hold backs, no take backs. 

Just You shining You.

We Lose Our Wonder -- Squelched By Fear

10,957.

That’s a lot of days.

For being someone who claims to love sunrises as much as I do, I haven't seen terribly many.

Positioning myself just so in order to catch a glimpse of that big gaseous ball of energy that has not failed me once, making its appearance at the break of day?

No, instead, I’ve spent many days feigning how I need more sleep or grabbing coffee and “getting to work.” Or simply not thinking about it at all — my vision impaired by something much more "pressing."

Going out of my way to see a sunrise never came across to me as a very efficient thing to do. Lovely, sure, but, a little too much effort then the reward would seem to give, most days.

And plus, someone’s got to get to work.

So, I would settle for the random occurrences. Usually while driving to an early morning appointment...

There the sun would be, lifting up its head, making its presence known through the warm, hearty glow that overtook the landscape, before its rays actually even hit; the perfectly sparse clouds permeated in deep pink and blue; the sky itself changing shade from dark to day.

And as I'd look up to examine horizon to horizon, it was clearly still night in the west and becoming day in the east.

And this was morning. A moment that shouted a little more subtly than others: Look at me.

What? I’m pretty sure this thing that has made its appearance, without fail, every single day of my life (and for nearly 4.5 billion years….4.5 billion years. Must I repeat it? 4.5 billion. years.)… has got its job down and is doing just fine. It has lost nothing.

But me?

Now, I might lose MY wonder. Captivated by other things that “need” done led by fears that seem real.

We lose our wonder — squelched by fear.

So instead, we accept that most of life is meant to be pretty, well, normal. Lack luster. That fear and its dictates are the way life on earth is supposed to go.

And that these special moments … they are special because they give us a glimpse of something more meaningful, more beautiful, more surreal such that, maybe, “one day,” we’ll get to live this way indefinitely.

It does not matter who you are, where you came from or what you believe: If you are a human, you live in a world setup to squelch your wonder. To package things neat and clean and say here: This is what is true. Nothing else to see here!

Be wary of the thought someone or something else is "out there” trying to “get you" or “take your wonder.”

No, my friends, there is nothing trying to attack you as much as it is trying to distract you. This is simply apart of the human condition we face.

Part of being human in the world is the pull of the world to lesser purposes than we know we were created for (and we do know.)

The pull of the world is to less wondrous ways of being.

It takes something to be someone committed to a life of wonder instead of fear.
It takes something to be someone committed to a life of creation instead of consumption.
It takes something to be someone committed to a life of transcending the ways of the world, the pull of the world to be “normal,” to be “average” and to focus on survival of the body instead of expansion of the essence.

It takes something.

What does it take? Well, it takes everything that’s not that. (Read: Fear.)

This isn’t about paying your way to a wondrous life. It’s about letting go of everything that keeps you from it.

Your natural state is wonder!
Your natural essence is expansion.
Your natural essence is creation.
Your natural essence is eternal, abundant, life.

This is who you are. It’s who you’ve always been.

And everything, everywhere, always, will do its best to keep you from this. Even the seemingly more noble things in life like “caring” for others or “earning” a living. If we show up to life at the cost of our wonder, can it even be said we are really living?

If we don’t wonder now, when will we?
If we don’t create now, when will we?
If we don’t transcend now, when will we?

All of us experience the pull to live lives as mere humans...most often promised that after we die, something will change. We will become who we were always meant to be!

How interesting that we have come to believe physical death is the way to eternal life.

I will let you in on the secret: It is not death that is the way to life. Only life gives way to life.

This is it. Please do not wait for heaven. Heaven is waiting on you.

The invitation of heaven is to a more wondrous way of living, a life full of more awe and astonishment, a life where the world and its lesser ways fade and fade as we are enthralled with all that is captivating and real.

When we slow down enough, we know… the invitation is not coming from without, but from within. Always beckoning. Sometimes whispering through a flower. Sometimes shouting through tragic news.

Whatever it takes...

May we hear the shouts. May we hear the whispers. But may we hear. The call to wonder, the call to heaven, the call to life now, while living. May we not delay another day.

For tomorrow, we really do die.

What it takes to live in peace

As a 20-something, “peace” wasn’t really at the top of my core values.

Adventure. Experience. Passion. Fun. But peace? No, thanks. I’ll be peaceful in my later years.

But the more self-reflection I did, the more I realized I was setting up a construct of peace “or” something else. Somewhere along the way I had embraced the belief I could either have a good time in life, with the turmoil that may bring, or be peaceful. As if peace was something that automatically meant a boring, mundane, meaningless life.

So for years I chose adventure and turmoil, because I couldn’t even see how “peace” could be a good time.

I’ll save the long story for another day, but to put it simply: You prove yourself right every time. And I proved myself right time and time again that I couldn’t live a life of adventure and be at peace. Instead, I would live my life of “adventure” and experience dramatic high highs and low lows. I’d get into the darkest of times where, in that moment, I’d trade almost anything for peace…except my sense of living.

So, to move on, I’d deny whatever that dark time was, and get back to living — knowing turmoil was around the corner, in any moment.

I’m grateful to have done the work of self-reflection and really work because I now know that I can live in peace and have my life be as adventurous and meaningful as I choose for it to be. I can have it all. Truly.

This kind of peace though — the kind that is real and powerful, the kind that allows you to keep living your expansive life while keeping you in its state — is earned.

It’s earned every time we exchange being “right” for what works.
It’s earned every time we let go of one way to find THE way.
It’s earned every time we choose to abandon that which kept us from it. 💗

Even Tombstones Fade

“Hereby is this monument erected for the perpetual memory of ….”

I can’t remember his name. But I walked by the odd-looking, miniature monument, on my Sunday morning stroll today.

The perpetual memory…

It was hard to read because the thing was so old. I had to stand there for a good 3 minutes, trying to decipher each word, talking out loud as I went…piecing it together until it made sense.

The perpetual memory…

He died in 1918.
I can’t remember his name.
And this stone monument in the park, close to the highway, under some trees, set off to the side is… lovely, but, isn’t really perpetuating the memory of the guy.

I don’t know what he did. I don’t know who he was. I don’t know why I should care. I don’t even remember his name! Except this fading stone monument vaguely points to his existence.

No matter what physical structures are put up in the name of someone, they will pass. Just as the person does. It may take longer to erode stone than the body, but it all gets eroded. Time takes it all. Everything fades. Everything passes.

Except what doesn’t.

Ideas. Energy. Conscious evolution of the same. Existence affecting existence.

“The perpetual memory” then, is inevitable. We need not try. Though we may direct…

Because it is not the memory of our name that is perpetuated. It is the memory of our very existence. Perpetuated through the influence and exchange we had with others while we were alive. It is never-ending as long as those we interacted with — even as brief as a silent smile — will share their existence. And that is a given. It is impossible for us to not be touched by the lives of those around us.

We are all creating this humanity, one-by-one…yet, together.

What memory are we perpetuating?